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Published on: 06/20/2025 • 7 min read

What to Teach Your Children About Intergenerational Wealth

Intergenerational wealth doesn’t preserve itself. Many high-net-worth (HNW) and ultra-high-net-worth (UHNW) families understand this all too well. Despite building substantial wealth through decades of discipline, entrepreneurship, and sacrifice, you may fear that your children — or your children’s children — may not be equipped to steward that legacy; the old adage, “shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations,” may ring a little too true for comfort.

Wealth preservation isn’t just about smart investing or tax efficiency: it’s also about values, education, communication, and structure. Without these elements, even the largest fortune can unravel.

This article is designed to offer a strategic yet practical roadmap for families committed to breaking the cycle. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach, but there are time-tested principles and tools that can help you teach your children not just how to manage inherited wealth, but why it matters. And at Avidian Wealth Solutions, we help families just like yours build customized plans to do just that.

1. Start with values, not numbers

Focus on values before discussing trusts, asset allocation, or family offices. Many UHNW families make the mistake of jumping into technical solutions before creating a shared understanding about what the wealth is for.

Start by articulating your family’s core values. To define what these are, you and your spouse can start by discussing the following questions:

  • What does wealth mean to us?
  • What kind of life do we want to empower for our children?
  • What causes or missions are important to us as a family?

When you build a financial education around these shared values, be it philanthropy, entrepreneurship, education, or stewardship, you give your children a compass, not just a map.

Practical Step: Draft a family mission statement
It doesn’t have to be formal or published; it just needs to be honest. Share it with your children and revisit it annually.

2. Teach financial literacy early (and repeatedly)

Many second- and third-generation inheritors simply lack the financial literacy needed to make informed decisions. Without this foundation, even well-intentioned heirs can fall prey to poor investments, unchecked spending, or manipulative advisors.

Start early. Teach young children the value of saving and delayed gratification. As they mature, introduce them to more sophisticated concepts:

  1. Budgeting and spending within means
  2. Compound interest and investment basics
  3. Taxes and how income is structured
  4. Risk tolerance and diversification
  5. Charitable giving and social responsibility

If your children are already adults, it’s never too late, but it does require intentionality. Hosting family financial meetings, encouraging them to work with a trusted advisor, or even enrolling them in workshops can go a long way.

Practical Step: Consider establishing a financial education timeline
This can include what concepts you’ll teach, and at what age or stage. Let advisors from Avidian help you tailor this plan to your family’s needs.

3. Avoid entitlement through accountability

Inherited wealth without responsibility can breed entitlement. To avoid this, wealth creators must set clear boundaries and conditions around access to family resources.

This doesn’t mean you don’t trust your children. It means you are preparing them to manage a serious responsibility. Consider implementing:

  • Performance-based trust distributions, such as matching earned income
  • Milestone triggers like completing a degree or starting a business
  • Phased inheritance, e.g., releasing funds at different ages
  • Family governance structures that require participation in meetings or educational sessions

The point is to create structure, not control. Children and grandchildren are more likely to succeed when there is clarity about what’s expected of them.

Practical Step: Embed conditional incentives within trusts and other legacy structures 
Your wealth advisor or estate planner can design these mechanisms to reinforce your values without feeling punitive to future generations.

4. Use trusts thoughtfully, not just legally

What role do trusts play in generational wealth management? Trusts are essential tools for the great wealth transfer, but many families treat them as legal necessities instead of wealth transfer planning opportunities. Beyond avoiding probate or minimizing estate taxes, trusts can:

  • Protect assets from creditors or divorcing spouses
  • Support a beneficiary’s education or business venture
  • Provide long-term care or health support
  • Create charitable impact through donor-advised funds or foundations

Most importantly, they allow you to better communicate intent across generations. A well-designed trust that’s paired with a letter of wishes or trustee guidance can speak on your behalf when you’re no longer here.

Practical Step: Reevaluate your current trust structures
Are they aligned with your family’s values and long-term goals? If not, Avidian can help you rework them to support a legacy plan with both flexibility and purpose.

5. Create opportunities, not just inheritances

Children often do better with opportunity than with outright wealth. Many high-net-worth families are choosing to fund experiences, education, or entrepreneurial ventures instead of simply transferring inherited wealth through lump sums.

For example, you could offer inheritors seed funding for a startup, matched by outside investment, or assist with the financing of a home purchase — all while requiring a mortgage-like repayment schedule.

Additionally, you could consider funding graduate school or other advanced degrees, but include performance clauses. Subsidizing nonprofit work or creative pursuits could also be a route that rewards and incentivizes enterprise in future generations.

This approach allows the next generation to engage with wealth actively, rather than passively, helping them feel empowered rather than entitled.

Practical Step: Create an “opportunity fund”
Set aside a portion of family capital into a fund with a clear application and approval process. This can be managed through your family office or under the guidance of an advisor.

6. Hold regular family wealth meetings

Families that talk about money tend to preserve it longer. Open, structured communication reduces the risk of resentment, confusion, and destructive conflict.

Don’t just tell your adult children about your wealth; host regular family wealth meetings — perhaps annually or semi-annually — with a clear agenda and purpose. Include discussions on:

  • Family values and philanthropic goals
  • Investment performance and general financial updates
  • Roles and responsibilities within the family enterprise
  • Succession planning and governance

Don’t shy away from hard conversations. Transparency builds trust and prepares future generations to take the reins.

Practical Step: Engage a third-party facilitator (like Avidian) 
During your first few meetings, an estate planner or wealth advisor can help create a safe, productive environment and guide difficult discussions with professionalism and neutrality.

7. Don’t wait for a crisis

Too many families wait until illness, death, or legal challenges force them to plan. At that point, decisions are often rushed, emotions are high, and long-term goals can fall by the wayside.

Proactive wealth transfer planning reduces stress, protects assets, and allows for meaningful legacy building. The best time to start is now, not when the next generation is already at the door of inheritance.

Practical Step: Create a “family wealth continuity plan” that addresses:
Succession planning and leadership rolesAsset transfer mechanicsContingency plans for disability or early deathDocumentation of all legal, financial, and personal instructions

Let Avidian help plan to preserve your legacy, not just your wealth.

Every family is different. Some children are entrepreneurs, others are artists. Some want to be involved in managing family assets, while others prefer to receive structured guidance. The challenge is to create a flexible plan that allows for differences while reinforcing shared values.

At Avidian Wealth Solutions, we offer intergenerational wealth transfer strategies that actively work for your family, not just in theory. From estate planning and investment management to family governance and charitable giving, we work in partnership with families to chart long-term paths based on trust, education, and structure.

Whether you’re at the beginning stages of planning or revisiting your strategy after a major life event, Avidian Wealth Solutions can help you build a custom roadmap for legacy preservation. Begin the process today by scheduling a meeting at our Houston, Austin, Sugar Land, or The Woodlands locations.

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